I was totally put off recently to learn that Kanye West announced Kim Kardashian's pregnancy by introducing her at a concert as his "Baby's Mama" Now frankly I don't care at all about Ms Kardashian or Mr West (except to observe to Ms Kim that if you don't want the "unfortunate circumstance" (as she said on the Today Show) of being pregnant by one guy while married to another, you should, I don't know, not have sex with one guy while married to another) but I am sick of hearing the terms "Baby's Mama" and "Baby's Daddy" thrown around all the time.Call it an occupational hazard of life on the 911 line, but I hear those expressions way too much.
Its not uncommon during a domestic dispute call to hear a conversation that goes something like this:
Calltaker:What is your emergency?
Citizen: I want this dude out of my house!
Calltaker: Who is this person? Do you know him?
Citizen: (gives name)
Calltaker: (attempting to determine if this is a domestic dispute, a higher priority that just 2 people arguing) But who is he to you?
Citizen: He's just my kid's dad or ( as one caller put it) He ain't nothing to me, he's just my baby's daddy,
Guys do the same thing: My baby's momma trashed the house while I was at work.
We hear this so often at work that one of my co-workers refers to himself as a "Baby's Momma Drama Wrangler".
I find myself perturbed when I hear this. The intention of course is to demean the other party. But I think the speaker demeans themselves even more. The complainant is suggesting that the other half served no purpose to them except for their contribution to conception, which seems more appropriate to the Middle Ages or hereditary monarchies. It suggests that they do not care that they either misused, or were misused by another, in this way. Moreover, with this mindset what are the children being taught about relationships, or about being parents themselves someday?
So guys, call her your girlfriend, call her your fiancee, caller her your significant other. Go ahead and add "The mother of our child". Or if things didn't work out, she's you ex wife, ex girlfriend. Or hey, just used their names. Ladies, same goes for you.
But no more "Baby's momma" or Baby's Daddy", Because the person you make look bad is yourself.