Sometimes I think I need my own personal Tim Gunn to make me over. I realize that even as a plus size person of somewhat limited means (as far as clothes shopping goes) I'm still not dressing that well. On the other hand, I suspect that even with a full makeover only so much would be accomplished. That's because I have come to believe there is a certain intangible at work here. You cant buy it, you cant learn it, you either have it or you don't.
I have a friend who looks good in everything I have ever seen her in. Its not an issue of new or old, designer or Kmart, its just something about the wearer that projects "I'm cool and I know it." wear Anything that might look odd on other people looks cool or even edgy on her. She epitomizes the great Will Smith quote from Men in Black "The difference between me and you is that I make this look good." And yet I know she agonizes over what to the grocery store. It just doesn't show.
I lack the intangible whatever it is that allows me to pull this sort of thing off. If I wear 2 different earrings, it doesn't look edgy it looks like I didn't check the mirror this morning. I have a cute tank top that is plain in front and has a lacy butterfly pattern up the back, On me it just looks like I put it on backwards. I won't even go into the effect of Asymmetrical tops or skirts. They look like I totally don't know how to dress myself. Yet classic looks just leave me looking dowdy, not classic.
My work wardrobe doesn't help. We wear uniform polo shirts that must be tucked into uniform pants, dividing the body right where no plus sized woman wishes to be divided. Add the thick leather belt and I look like a pillow tied tight in the middle. So I do look better in my off hours, mainly because one could hardly look worse. I usually opt for an untucked shirt or tunic, with shorts or slacks, or a sundress. The calves don't look bad, and I have some cleavage, so its everything in between that needs camouflaging. I opt for blue a lot to bring out my blue eyes, my best feature.
But I lack the ability to project a sense of style. I truly believe one is either born with it or deprived for life. My friend has it, my daughter has it, I lack it. Clothes on me are just clothes, and no matter how hard I try they will never be a fashion statement. I'm not really upset or saddened by this, just aware.
But if Tim Gunn ever wants to do the fashion version of Restaurant Impossible, I'm game.